Becoming an Overcomer
In a world where the rules are constantly changing and we are being told what to do, where to go, and whom we can be in contact with, it is sometimes difficult to feel in control. But it is also important for our own mental health to feel that we have control over our lives. According to Meriam-Webster, the definition of an overcomer is a person who overcomes something; one who succeeds in dealing with or gaining control of some problem or difficulty. So today, I’m going to share my six steps to becoming an overcomer. Decide what exactly you want to overcome. Is it habits? If so, be specific about what you want to overcome and be committed to the change. Is it an emotional struggle like anxiety, fear or depression? Start by taking a look at your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. Having an awareness and a desire to learn, grow and change is always the first step. Focus on the present. Don’t dwell on past mistakes, failures or choices. Start over and give yourself a fresh, clean slate. This will also help you avoid worrying about the unknowns of the future, and whether or not you will repeat the past. Every day is a new opportunity to learn, grow and be in the process of becoming better. Figure out your triggers. What are the emotional, situational and environmental factors that have previously caused you to slide back into those old reflexes that are no longer serving you? Create a plan of action. When you are triggered and feel that pull back into those old habits, what will you do? How can you respond differently this time, rather than instantly reacting the way you always have? Celebrate! Focus on small, daily wins and remember that overcoming your obstacles is a process. Consistency is truly the key here. Let yourself be proud when you are dealing with life well, and give yourself grace when you do react rather than respond. Again, this is a process and it takes time to grow and change. Get the support you need. Whether that’s from a friend, family member, accountability partner, coach or therapist. Make sure to have people in your corner who you can count on to be objective, and have your best interest at heart. It’s not always an easy process and if you need someone to support you and help guide you through, ask for help.
Becoming an overcomer is a worthwhile and rewarding journey. The goal is to truly have inner strength, peace and confidence, no matter what happens throughout your life. And it’s a journey you don’t have to go through alone!